Listening Actively

 Last weekend, I was at a family gathering where my younger brother Corbin was talking about a big decision he's facing about his career. He was explaining his thoughts and feelings about whether to pursue a job offer or continue with further studies. My parents, excited about the job offer, kept chiming in with their opinions, which clearly made Corbin feel overwhelmed. Instead of fully listening to his concerns, they were focused on persuading him to take the job.

Recognizing that Corbin wasn’t being heard, I decided to step in using active listening skills. I waited for a pause and then asked, “Corbin, how are you feeling about each option? What’s weighing on your mind the most?” By asking open-ended questions and listening without interrupting, I gave him space to express himself. After reflecting on what he said, I paraphrased his thoughts, saying, “It sounds like you’re torn between wanting stability and still exploring your passions through study.” This validation made Corbin visibly more relaxed and open in sharing his feelings.

This scenario reflects what I learned from Reflect and Relate about the importance of supportive listening. Giving someone the time and space to express themselves without judgment or interruption helps build trust and shows empathy. It’s a reminder that sometimes people don’t need solutions; they just need to feel heard.


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